December is finally here and I am in disbelief because 2017 has gone by so fast. I settled into Kenya, turned the almighty 25, got a job I could learn from, made real Kenyan friends, got my phone stolen and fell in love with nyama choma (mans international now fan!); so 2017 has ben both naughty and nice to me. And as I reflect, here are some of the essential lessons I have learnt this year:
Fight for your happiness: This has literally become my life’s motto. I have spent so much of my life trying to please other people and make them happy till I realised that it started hurting me. And I decided that i’d be stupid to let that keep happening. It has been hard, it has led to arguments and silences, but in the end, those who truly love me have trusted and respected my decisions.
Not everything is your fault: I always pride myself in controlling the things that happen in my life; acceptances and rejections, gains and losses. I believe that hard work leads to great results and caution leads to better and smarter choices. But you know what? I can’t calculate or control everything; no one can. Sometimes the world dishes out whatever it wants and it is okay for you to accept that there is nothing you could have done. Don’t laugh, but my phone getting stolen at Koroga festival really drove this point home for me. I bawled my eyes out for like 20 minutes when I got home, thinking about how I could have been more responsible.
Nothing defines you except you: This year has been quite difficult when it comes to letting other things and people define me and my value. From how much money I make to opinions of family and work colleagues about my lifestyle, I have spent a couple of nights crying and underestimating my value as a person. But whether it’s my job, my blog or even the ones I care about the most, I am learning that only I can know and hold true to my value.
Learn like there is no tomorrow: There is no better ambition in life than growing your mind and absorbing knowledge as much as you can. For me, that is why I took the job I have right now and I tolerate the workload. I can guarantee you that I am hungry to know more. I believe that this is one thing that can add or take away from your value so keep building!
Accept that you are human and have faults: I am one of the proudest people you will ever meet, and I don’t mean to say that in a negative way. I simply believe I work hard to be the best I can so I don’t take corrections easily; I tend to be defensive and not see it. Oh boy, this year, I have learnt the hard way to look inwards, be honest with myself and be better. I have worked hard to view myself in a less self righteous manner and see myself how others see me as well.
If you had any lessons of your own or any of these resonated with you, drop a comment, i’d love to hear it!
Top, Skirt – old items from Zara but loved how the reds went together
Jacket – Old coat from J Crew
Watch – Sekonda (a gift)
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