It reeks. It stinks. It sucks.
I would never speak ill of my country if I don’t have cause to. I mean, we have a lot to proud of because we are industrious, intelligent, entrepreneurial, fresh (yes I said that), fashionable, stylish (honestly have you counted how many black successful fashion bloggers are Nigerian? sigh, competition is FIERCE), friendly, hospitable and the list goes on.
But most important of all, our worst trait comes out in everything we do –> hypocrisy.
There. I said it. Nigerians are hypocrites and as general as that may be, it’s pretty factual (in my opinion haha)
Religion is such a great thing in our country that we use to guide ourselves in making better choices and doing the right thing. Mind me, when I use great in this context, I use it with a lot of sarcasm and currently am performing the action of rolling my eyes.
I have grown up in a country where I have learnt to know God and believe in Him; the same country that uses God as an excuse for everything but conveniently forgets Him in one way or another. Are you looking for a country where people are dressed to the nines to go to church? where sitting in front row and declaring aloud the amounts of money you are donating to the church is a thing? where people pray but gossip about everyone else and judge on a regular? Where the phrase “thank God” is so often muttered but people hardly help themselves? Where homosexuality is a sin but killing children on planes through corruption and passing laws to rape children is allowed? You’ve won the lottery! Because it is Nigeria.
And the saddest thing is that this hypocrisy infiltrates every single fibre in the fabric of this country…
Recently, America passed a law to make gay marriage legal. The country celebrated and Nigerians with prejudices frowned hard and put up posts with sayings such as “I believe marriage is between a man and a woman”. Okay then, everyone is allowed their beliefs but that does not mean you force it on those around you. They want to get married? Let them get married. Sheesh. Recently, though a little more back in time, Nigeria took the time to sit and pass judgment on homosexuals with a jail term of 14 years or more. A poll on the matter showed that 94% of Nigerians agreed with this judgment. In addition to all this, our country has also managed to make it possible for old, sick, perverted, sixty and seventy something year old men to marry and for all intense purposes rape little girls without any consequences. Now I ask you, do you see the irony in this? No? Let me lay it out for you. Homosexual activity and discussions in Nigeria are very tense as the older generation battles with the younger one about what is “allowed” under Christianity or not. With the 94% shown, it is clear that our representatives are disgusted with the idea that two consenting individuals can express love in a manner they choose towards each other. Nevertheless, that same house of representatives finds it acceptable to allow perverted grandfathers rape unsuspecting little girls that they buy from their parents.
Some would argue with me to say: just because they are raping little girls does not mean that homosexuals should be allowed to run scot free. In a manner of speaking, two wrongs don’t make a right. And maybe you have a point. But let me remind you that we equally have no right to judge some sins while we allow others to go scot free. In fact, that is the greatest hypocrisy of all. Not to mention, why in the world are we passing judgment on how people choose to use their bodies? We have a million and one ACTUAL problems in Nigeria and our parliament was wasting our time and Nigerian tax payer’s money to talk about what people choose to willingly do with their own bodies in their own bedrooms and with each other’s consent. Not to mention, has anyone ever stopped to think about homosexuals as anything more than the way they choose to have sex? When you meet a heterosexual couple, do you judge them based solely on how they have chosen to have sex? Do you even think about it?
Most of all, people choose to use the Bible as a way to go against homosexuals and the like. Really? In the same vein, the Bible asks that we do not eat pork or commit fornication and or adultery. Yet, people are not sent to prison for these things. I mean, people are not sent to prison for raping little girls in this country and messing up their futures! Also adultery is about the most popular sin known to Nigeria that is has been normalized. At some point, your husband will probably cheat on you, deal with it. This is equally a country where men steal the country’s money and many die as a result! And these are part of the actual Ten Commandments, “Thou shall not commit adultery” and “Thou shall not steal”
Some argue “oh Dhvani, that’s the Old Testament”. Okay then, let’s take a different example. In the New testament, in Paul’s letter to the Corinthians:
“As in all the churches of God’s people, the women should keep quiet in the meetings. They are not allowed to speak…they must not be in charge. If they want to find out about something, they should ask their husbands at home. It is a disgraceful thing for a woman to speak in church” (1st Corinthians 14:34-35).
Do women speak in church today? Are we slowly starting to realize that the Bible is not exactly the guideline to follow word for word? I sure hope so, because Lord knows I expect to be able to speak in church or anywhere for that matter, without anyone telling me nothing.
Lastly, Nigeria is not a theocracy. It never was and by God’s grace, it never will be. It is with that hope that I pray our nation opens its eyes and views the real crimes being committed here. Let your views remain yours but let your views not change the lives of others who do not change yours.
New addition: http://edition.cnn.com/2016/04/08/europe/vatican-pope-family/